By Kay Caldwell
I am a big fan of the book The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. Not too long ago, I was watching television on a slow night and channel searched to The Bachelor. For those of you who have not seen this show, a man is presented with a couple of dozen women and chooses, after many weeks of getting to know them, the one true love that he might want to marry. That night, there was one young lady the bachelor was interested in and chose to have a private conversation with her. She shared that she has a “vision board” that helps her stay focused on her goals. A vision board is a board with pictures and thoughts of your dreams. You cut out a picture of a home you desire or a company logo of where you want to work, a dollar amount of what you want to make this year in income, things like that. She puts those thoughts out to the universe and that helps them come true. It is the law of attraction they speak of in The Secret. One of her thoughts listed on her vision board is to find true love. She chose to be on the show to do just that. I had to laugh because the bachelor, after her response, looked baffled. She asked him if he’d ever heard of a vision board. He said he hadn’t. I could tell he thought she was in left field and a little out there. Guess what? She wasn’t chosen to stay on the show. I guess you could say they were not of “like” minds.
I do believe wholeheartedly in ask, believe, and receive. The key is you have to actually believe it can happen for you. In the book it states that expectation is a powerful attractive force. Expect the things you want, and don’t expect the things you don’t want. Many great men and women contributed to this book with great insight. Repeatedly, it talks about gratitude. It is powerful in shifting your energy and brings more of what you want into your life. Be grateful for what you already have and you will attract more good things. Giving thanks for what you want in advance turbo charges your desires and sends a more powerful signal out to the Universe on your behalf. This is something that you have to make a habit, not a one-time shot, so begin giving thanks and showing gratitude.
Relationships are an area of concern for all of us. In The Secret, Marci Shimoff shared, “In relationships we’re so used to complaining about other people. For instance, “My coworkers are so lazy, my husband makes me so mad, and my children are so difficult.” It’s always focusing on the other person. But for relationships to really work, we need to focus on what we appreciate about the other person, not what we’re complaining about. When we’re complaining about those things we’re only getting more of those things.”
Even if you are having a really hard time in a relationship — things are not working, you’re not getting along, someone’s in your face — you can still turn that around. Take a piece of paper, and for the next thirty days sit down and write all the things that you appreciate about that person. Think of the reasons you love them. Look for their strengths — maybe it is their sense of humor. I read once, that to consider the other’s position, you have to become that person, walking in their fears and then return to your own being. It will help you heal the relationship.
In the times we are living in, we must keep those we love and trust close to us. Our values must be from our soul. We should strive to create an environment of harmony, cooperation, sharing and a reverence for life. It will be our true survival.